| Are all the "good ones" married? Are men your age | | | | However, if you're a bit rusty, take a look around you |
| only interested in women 20 years younger? Is it | | | | when you're out because you want to be current. |
| "impossible" to meet men? | | | | Make sure your curb appeal is up-to-date. |
| Okay, although logic never convinces anyone of | | | | Watch other women when they're flirting; there's a |
| anything, let's counter some of these silly ideas. | | | | style to that as well. It will help you get in the zone to |
| Yes, many good ones are married, but half of them will | | | | watch some women in action. Brush up on your flirting |
| be divorced sooner or later. | | | | skills. Smile. Catch his eye. Work up some friendly |
| Some men are interested in women 20 years | | | | opening lines to have handy. |
| younger. It rarely works out and some men have to | | | | THE PLAN |
| learn this the hard way. You can catch one when he's | | | | You know how they say "multiple income streams"? |
| finally gotten a clue, if you're patient. My friend Sheila | | | | Well, you're going to need multiple outgoing streams. |
| did. | | | | Your plan is to meet new people. The good thing |
| Is it impossible to meet men? Only if you're determined | | | | about this is that you'll collect friends and adventures, |
| it is. | | | | maybe even clients or a new job whatever else |
| He's looking for you just as hard as you're looking for | | | | happens, so none of this is wasted. |
| him, but he's not going to come knock at your door? I | | | | Get out, attend, join and participate. If the doors are |
| know men who've called long-lost loves, sometimes | | | | open, and people will be there, YOU be there. |
| after 40 years. A telephone or email works fine and it | | | | Assuming that you work, you have the noon hour, |
| can happen. If you heard the stories I hear as a coach, | | | | evenings and weekends. |
| you'd know that anything's possible. | | | | Now here are some suggestions - and do them ALL: |
| I was in marketing for many years, and it occurred to | | | | ·Join singles clubs and participate. |
| me that what you need is a marketing plan. If I were | | | | ·Join and get active in a faith organization |
| marketing an apartment complex, here's what I'd do: | | | | ·Go to any event open to the public - chamber of |
| Interview the owner to find out what her goals were. | | | | commerce, fundraising, Fun Runs, political, galas. |
| Check out the curb appeal. Find out what the | | | | ·Join the online dating services such as eharmony |
| amenities were. Do a quick study of the competition. | | | | - |
| Write up a marketing plan, applying the fundamentals. | | | | ·Let your friends and family know that you'd like |
| Now for the fun part - let's apply this to you and your | | | | some introductions to nice single men they know |
| search for Mr. Right. | | | | ·Be open to possibilities when you're out at the |
| WHAT YOU WANT? | | | | mall, grocery, and sporting goods store. Pay some |
| What are you looking for in a man? Be specific. Make | | | | visits Home Depot. Look like you're lost, and if you see |
| a list. Actually write it down. When you know what you | | | | a cute guy, ask him about torque wrenches. |
| want, you attract it. Write down the traits, qualities, | | | | ·Visit art museums, go to the races and sports |
| values, appearance and so forth. | | | | events. |
| CURB APPEAL | | | | ·Join some sports places. Word has it workout |
| In the apartment industry, "curb appeal" means what | | | | gyms are not a good place to look (for either sex), but |
| the place looks like when you first drive up. So do an | | | | someone I know met a great guy when she was |
| honest assessment of your curb appeal - what do | | | | taking SCUBA diving lessons. |
| they see when they look at you? Sometimes all you | | | | ·Volunteer! And volunteer to do things that put you |
| get is a first impression. | | | | in a strategic location. My favorites are staffing the |
| Do a makeover. If you need to, get a new hairstyle, | | | | nametag table and serving as hostess or greeter. |
| get in top shape, get your nails done, and take a look | | | | Everybody who enters must pass by me. |
| at your wardrobe. Men fall in love with their eyes. | | | | ·Build a house with Habitat for Humanity. Mid-life |
| Work on your smile and your eye contact. A coach | | | | guys love manual labor. |
| can give you tips on this. You want your inner light to | | | | ·Consider a goofy now-and-then job like doing the |
| shine. This means you must work on your attitude. | | | | food demos in the grocery store on Saturday |
| Learn some optimism. It can be learned and you don't | | | | afternoon. Notwithstanding the silly "hat", you'll be in a |
| need a reason. Not only will you feel better, but you'll | | | | prime position to look 'em over and hook 'em in. Or |
| be more attractive to other people. | | | | stock books in a bookstore one evening a week if you |
| THE AMENITIES | | | | like guys who read. |
| At an apartment complex, that's ceiling fans and hot | | | | ·Take your dog walking in different parks, |
| tubs. For you, take a look at what you bring to a | | | | especially Saturday mornings. |
| relationship. I'm not talking about material things, I'm | | | | ·Set up a blog on an interesting topic. Get a free |
| talking about things that really matter. Make a list of all | | | | one here: . |
| your good qualities. Zero in on two things that are | | | | ·Guys are physical. Go kayacking, camping out, |
| unique to you and exceptional about you. Keep these | | | | hiking or bike riding; join a tennis league. |
| in mind and project them. | | | | ·Hang out at Starbucks on Saturday |
| THERE IS NO COMPETITION | | | | So there's your plan. Now approach it with enthusiasm |
| Keep in mind abundance - there's someone for | | | | and determination and remember to include all these |
| everyone, and the goal is to find a good fit, in which | | | | things in your mix. Good luck! |
| case, it really isn't a competition. | | | | |